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Do you have trouble feeling confident and being your best friend? In this post, you will read about things you can do that will help you gain confidence and love yourself.
Confidence isn’t something that comes quickly in some cases. Sometimes, it takes deep inner work to reach a point where you absolutely are in love with yourself.
This post will help you quiet your inner critic, and set you on your way to the most confident you’ve ever felt.
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Show up as the woman you want to become
The easiest way to gain confidence and treat yourself well is by figuring out who it is that you want to become. Once you’ve done that, start acting like her.
Do you have anybody in mind who inspires you?
What is her daily routine like? How does she carry herself? What habits are non-negotiables for her? What does she wear? How does she speak to others and what are her boundaries like?
Once you figure out what your dream woman is, you can start implementing her habits. Sooner rather than later, they will become a part of your routine and you will become the woman you’ve always admired.
Love your imperfections
We all have what we call flaws that we wish would disappear. All of us have those, even the likes of Hollywood starlets, Instagram models, and incredible singers.
For many of us, it’s usually a physical trait that is an insecurity. Whatever you think is wrong with you, trust me when I tell you, that it’s not. It’s normal to pick yourself apart from time to time, but you can make uplifting yourself a new normal for you.
For instance, let’s say you are insecure about having a tummy post-birth. You can complain about it, or you can reframe that thought and tell yourself that you literally birthed new life into this world. Which makes you a badass, if I do say so myself.
Whatever you tell yourself, you will believe.
Compliment yourself every day
Picking up from the last point, you also want to give yourself compliments. Every single day, in fact.
Positive affirmations have a huge effect on the brain and how we view ourselves. The more compliments you tell yourself, the better you will feel about yourself.
If you feel that you don’t believe what you’re saying just yet, you will very soon.
Wear what you feel comfortable in
Fashion is very subjective and what you may feel confident in might be different from what your friend feels confident in. For someone else, it might be a form-fitting dress. Maybe for you, it’s a well-tailored suit with some killer pumps.
Whatever makes you feel amazing, whether it’s an all-black outfit or a colorful ensemble, is what you need to be wearing more of.
Trendy clothes might not be your thing, and that’s okay. The point here is to make you feel good in what you’re wearing, no matter how old-fashioned, or trendy, it is.
Quiet your inner critic
Intrusive thoughts are, like I’ve mentioned a few points above, no good at all for growing your confidence in yourself. Sometimes, these thoughts are about what we do or how we choose to deal with certain situations.
Your inner critic will sometimes try to bring you down and tell you that you’re not good enough. Or that your voice doesn’t matter. Or, that you have nothing of value to bring to the table.
If this sounds familiar to you, let me be the one to tell you that that’s absolute bullshit. Imposter syndrome has killed many people’s confidence, and in order to not let it kill yours, you need to work on reframing those thoughts.
Things like journaling, meditation, and even therapy are great ways to learn how to block that imposter syndrome and believe in yourself as you should.
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Spend time by yourself
We truly begin to get to know ourselves fully when we spend time alone. When was the last time you did something by yourself outside of your house?
When you do things alone from time to time you have time to think and act exactly how you want to. You’re not influenced by others around you, and you have the time to reflect on your life. You can find out a lot by yourself when you simply are alone every once in a while.
Try things like going out to dinner, going to watch a movie, going for a walk, or reading a book at a coffee shop.
Practice gratitude every day
Practicing gratitude is something that many people swear by when it comes to feeling great about life and themselves.
No matter what you’re going through, there is always plenty to be thankful for in your life. A simple 5-minute daily practice of gratitude can have huge benefits to your self-esteem.
Many people swear by The Five Minute Journal. It has a section for morning gratitude as well as evening gratitude for each day. Five minutes a day added up over a course of a few weeks can do wonders for your confidence levels, so definitely give it a try.
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Remember that hurt people hurt people
Remember the saying, “Hurt people hurt people” the next time someone tries to make you feel bad or insults you.
People most often project their insecurities on others when they lash out or act rude. It usually has nothing at all to do with you. Therefore, it’s important to train yourself to not believe what they say to you if it’s hurtful.
One way to block these people out is by remembering that the opinions of others do not reflect on you as a person. Not everybody will like you. You could be the ripest peach there is and there will still be people who don’t like peaches.
You need to be content with yourself and trust that you’re doing your best. Anything negative someone says, unless it is constructive, shouldn’t occupy more than a few seconds in your mind.
Here are a few amazing books that can help you become more confident and love yourself more than ever:
- You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
- Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
- The Self-Love Experiment by Shannon Kaiser
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