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Today’s post is a guest post by Vasundhra Gupta! Vasundhra has a spirituality blog that is worth checking out, and she covers a range of topics on it including mental health, spirituality, and relationships.
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Thank you Vasundhra for your guest post and I hope you all enjoy it as much as I do!
How To Take Responsibility In Your Life
If you are someone who likes to play the blame game in your life and thinks that bad things always seem to only happen to you, then this post is for you.
We are going deep today into the realm of making other people your punching bag, and not taking responsibility for your actions.
Often, inconclusive in our inference, unable to determine the lesson meant for us to learn, we put the blame on external factors.
Think closely, can you relate?
The moment something goes south in your life, whose fault do you find it to be?
For instance, if you’re running late, why does everyone on the streets become an ‘idiot’?
Whenever you’re in a bad mood and you come home, why are your parents or spouse getting a dose of your attitude?
When you’re the one getting irritated, why do you call the other person irritating?
I’m not saying that the blame game is unhealthy. It is, you already know that. I’m trying to go one step deeper and ask you, WHY do certain people become your punching bags?
More often than not, these are the people that matter the most to us.
Why is it easier for us to shift the weight of our problems onto other people?
Why are we dismissing our own lack of awareness of our triggers, and why aren’t we taking accountability for how we feel, regardless of what happens to us?
This is a tough-love kind of post today, I know. But this is one space we need to grow more conscious of on a day-to-day basis.
This is something that can make a whole lot of difference in our relationships, in bare minimum time.
What You Can Do Instead
Whenever something goes wrong, we enter into analytical mode. We need to conclude WHY something went wrong.
If you’re emotionally unwell today, don’t dump the load on other people. Instead, have a direct conversation about what happened.
It may be hard to master at first, but talking about our feelings is the biggest step you can take towards taking responsibility in your life.
As adults, it’s time to do the adult thing in coping with yourself.
In that, two things will happen.
One, the other person will understand you and might even give you space to be on your own.
And second, you might actually talk yourself out of the emotional and mental rut with some sound discussion.
Ending this note in my own, lighter style, of course.
The only dump you should take, is in the toilet. 😊
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My boyfriend is VERY MUCH the kind of person to blame everyone else. So if he’s running late, it’s everyone on the street’s fault. It’s so annoying as I’m not like that at all! I think taking responsibility of your own life and the way you react to things is SO important. The way we react to things is EVERYTHING sometimes x
Your boyfriend sounds a lot like my dad haha! He’s the same way. It’s funny how angry some people get at others for basically nothing.
People need to learn how to take responsibility for their own lives instead of blaming outside factors. Everything about our lives is the direct result of a choice that was made.
I completely agree with you!
This was really refreshing! Thak you for your advice.
This is SO interesting. I am terrible for taking things out on the people I love.
I sometimes do it as well! Definitely something I need to work on!
I know that I’m someone who tends to pick fights with loved ones if I feel unhappy about something in my life. But it’s definitely something I’m working on! Great blog post.
Glad you enjoyed it! 😊
Very interesting perspective of seeing things, I completely agree to shift awareness and make conscious decisions going forward to make a positive change.
– Kristen
I totally agree with this – I used to be bad at this and blame everyone for everything but I am getting better as I can pull myself out of it. Can be hard sometimes though!
It definitely can be hard! I can relate as I sometimes do it as well but being aware of it, I think, is the first step!
I’m getting a lot better at taking responsibility for things – I think it’s the joy of getting old haha. I did really like the point of if I’m getting irritated, why does that make other people irritating. I haven’t thought of it like that before, and that’s something I still need to work on! I definitely don’t blame other people for things like being late, but I do allow myself to blame them for my mood when really it’s on me! Very interesting post!