• Start Here
    • About Boss Babe Chronicles
    • Work with me
    • Disclaimer and Privacy
  • Beauty
    • Style
    • Beauty Tips
    • Hair, Skin, Nails
  • Lifestyle
    • Books
    • College
    • Things To Do
    • Backgrounds
    • Fall and Winter
    • Summer Season
  • Personal Development
    • Career
    • Finances
    • Self-Care
    • Femininity
    • Productivity
    • Personal Growth
    • Law of Attraction
    • Health and Wellness
  • Relationships
    • Romance
    • Social Life
    • Colleagues

Boss Babe Chronicles

Personal Development

How To Find Yourself In Your Twenties

November 7, 2021

This post may contain affiliate links. That means that if you click on a link and purchase something I recommend, I will receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. This helps keep my website up and running and is very appreciated. Thank you for your support!

Today’s post on personal development is by Amanda Rom. Thank you Amanda for your contribution!

Growing, evolving, changing whatever you want to call it, is a normal cycle that we all have to go through. Being able to distinguish the things that work for you and the ones that no longer work, is one of the hardest things we all have to deal with in our growth journey. 

Pin to share! 📌

How To Find Yourself In Your Twenties

Finding who you truly are means putting yourself in an uncomfortable inner position where you have to go back and release limiting beliefs, other people’s opinions, words, and actions that hurt you when you were younger. It’s about finding your passions and hobbies, about trying and failing until you discover what fulfills your soul.

Healing your inner self is like a rollercoaster, but it’s an important part to find who you truly are. From time to time, you will feel all this energy and motivation to eat healthy, workout, journal every morning or be grateful for everything that happened during the day.

Other times, you will feel drained and nothing will seem amusing enough to put you in the mood to get out of bed and focus on pursuing your goals, you’ll think that you’re not making any progress. But in reality, you’ve grown, you have made those inner changes, and you’re not the same person you were a few days or even hours ago. 

I’ve been through this journey for a few years now, but it wasn’t until recently when I actually started seeing the progress that I was making. I’m soon going to be 23 and I feel great about the person who I’m becoming, and in this post, I’m going to give you my best-unsolicited advice that will hopefully guide you or help you through your journey of finding yourself. 

It’s about you not others

When I first started to find my true self. I used to ask people how they felt about me plus if I should change certain actions that I did or how to improve them so I could become a better person. I made the mistake of trying to be who others wanted me to be, instead of focusing on being who I truly wanted to be.

This is extremely important when you’re starting out. Mostly if you’re constantly looking for validation. Remember that this is not about them. It’s about you. And in order to find who you truly are, you need to focus on yourself, not others. 

It gets lonely 

When you start focusing on yourself, things will get pretty lonely. There will be people in your life who are not going to like the fact that you’re working on yourself. Because that means that you’re not going to give them your time freely like before and that sucks for them. 

Remember you’re not being selfish for focusing on yourself. Keep your boundaries and make time for those who value you, who are there for you and who you know understand that what you’re doing is to become your best self and has nothing to do with them.

Healing is uncomfortable

If there’s something I want you to get from this post, it is that healing will be painful. Like I mentioned before, you need to release everything that is no longer serving you. If you don’t, you’re going to keep living life trying to avoid that pain instead of living freely. 

Something that helped me a lot during this process was to write it down. Feel the pain, the anger, the frustration, everything that arises and let it go. Release it by feeling it. I know it sounds a bit harsh but trust me on this one, it works. Michael A. Singer states this in his book called “The Untethered Soul”. 

It requires discipline 

All around social media women are sharing their routines and how-to guides to become “that girl” and while that can be empowering to some degree, it’s crucial that you create your own routines and lifestyle. See what works and what doesn’t work for you. If you try to follow a routine that is not suitable for your lifestyle or the one you’re trying to build, then you’ll give up pretty soon. When motivation is not there, discipline and habits are needed. Therefore, build a routine that allows you to keep working on your goals without overwhelming you in your low days. 

Vulnerability is part of the process

We are social beings by nature. And from time to time you’re going to need someone to share your progress and improvements with. Make sure that these people have an open mind, value, and empower you. It’s important to surround yourself with people who understand and do not judge what you’re doing. 

When healing you’re in a vulnerable state and having negative or envious people surrounding you can drain your energy and it can affect your journey. If you feel that you’re better off alone, so be it. You’ll find the right people as soon as your energy shifts. I know it for sure, believe in it, and be open-minded. 

To wrap it up

Know that you’re not alone, there’s someone out there going through the same or a similar journey as you. I know it can get hard, but you’ve got this. I believe in you. I could keep going but those are the most helpful points that I wanted to share in this post. I want to finish this post with this amazing quote “if no one invests in you, invest in yourself”. Thank you so much Mariam for allowing me to write this piece. I’m beyond grateful. 

About the Author

Hello! I’m Amanda, a brand strategist, digital marketing student, and blogger at Hype your Gals – a career + wellness blog where I share educational and empowering content for fellow female creatives who need a pick me up or simply some hype words to keep owning their magic. You can follow my work at @hypeyourgals on IG and my personal account is at @amandaxrom on IG, TikTok, Pinterest, and Snapchat. I’m always there if you ever need to talk. Thanks for reading and hope you have an awesome day! 

Related posts you might enjoy:
12 GOOD MONEY HABITS TO START IN YOUR TWENTIES
20 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW IN YOUR TWENTIES
20 LIFE LESSONS AND RULES FOR SUCCESS

Free daily planner!

Are you ready to take your organization game to another level? This free planner will help!

    We won’t send you spam, but you’ll need to confirm your subscription. Unsubscribe at any time.

    Built with ConvertKit

    motivation personal development self-development self-growth

    2 Comments

    About Mariam

    Hi! I'm Mariam, your go-to guide for navigating life’s twists and turns. I write posts to help women create their dream lives. Think of me as a supportive friend cheering you on to become your best self. My goal is to inspire confidence and celebrate your unique journey. Join me as we embrace our strengths and enjoy the adventure of self-discovery together!

    Reader Interactions

    Leave a Comment Cancel reply

    Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

    Comments

    1. Rebecca says

      November 8, 2021 at 3:35 am

      Amanda, you have wisdom beyond your years. You have helped me so much. I am in my 50’s and still learning. Thank you so much for sharing!

      Reply
    2. Olivia says

      January 3, 2022 at 2:29 pm

      Loved this! Agree with so many of them, especially about how healing is uncomfortable – a harsh truth but so needed!

      Reply
    Previous Self Care for Better Mental Health
    Next Payroll Charitable Giving: A Guide To Giving While Earning

    Related Posts

    Personal Development

    100 Habits That Will Change…

    Personal Development

    How to Seriously Achieve Your…

    Personal Development

    How to Set Healthy Boundaries…

    Personal Development

    100 Life-Changing Goals for the…

    Primary Sidebar

    • Email
    • Instagram
    • Pinterest
    • Twitter

    Search The Blog

    Latest Posts

    13 Ways to Smell Good All Day Long

    20 Beauty Hacks Before Bed to Transform Your Look Overnight

    How to Become the Prettiest Version of Yourself

    22 Ways to Make Your Life Feel Luxurious

    How Mel Robbins’ Viral Morning Routine Changed My Life

    Beauty Boost: What To Look For in Collagen Powder

    10 Ways to Create a Charming, Sexy Aura

    20 Podcasts That Will Help You Become “That Girl”

    Headway: The Best Personal Development Tool for Busy Women

    19 Habits of Successful Women

    17 Graceful Habits of Elegant Women

    17 Habits of Intelligent Women

    Why Feminine Energy is a Superpower

    Essential Undergarments Every Woman Should Own

    How to Become Your Own Cheerleader

    The Ultimate Beauty Maintenance Routine

    18 Motivational Podcasts for When You Feel Stuck

    How to Be the Most Interesting Woman in the Room

    Copyright © 2025 Boss Babe Chronicles
    Theme by SheShoppes
    We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it.Ok